Every day one of my friends is engaged, married, talking about getting married, talking about getting engaged, or complaining because their boyfriend of four years has yet to “pop the question.”   I know finding a mate, and then subsequently marrying that person is high on the list of priorities for many, but I live with the mindset, “it’ll happen when it happens”.   I understand that marriage and family is an important part of discussion in our mid-to-upper twenties, but what happened to soul-searching? What happened to self-discovery? Or “Finding” ourselves?  I think of my friends signing marriage licenses, walking down the aisle, saying “YES!” to a man bent down on one knee, and it all seems exciting, life-changing, and romantic, but I am not there yet.  I am not ready to say those words, to sign those papers, or to walk down the aisle.

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